THE FORBIDDEN ALLOWED AND PRACTICES NOW UNNECESSARY

THE FORBIDDEN ALLOWED AND PRACTICES NOW UNNECESSARY

Why are forbidden foods and practices mentioned in Leviticus now allowed. Other practices such as sacrifices and scapegoats are no longer necessary. Communion and baptism have been added. 

Some suggest that homosexuality and lesbianism are among the practices now allowed, though lesbianism is not specifically mentioned in Leviticus. 

Most of the "laws" mentioned in Leviticus were preparations for ceremonial cleansing.­ There were, also, instructions for worship. Commandments of behavior, or moral laws, under which category homosexuality and other sexual immorality falls were considered sinful. Because the Israelites were "unclean" before God, who cannot look upon sin, they were required to cleanse themselves before approaching God's "house." God knew about germs and bacteria long before man, so even though the ceremonial cleansing was symbolic, the outward body was made clean.­ 

Still, both body and soul were only temporarily cleansed.­ This is why Christ came (Heb.­9:9-14).­ He became the priest (Heb.­2:17) and the atoning sacrifice (Heb.7:23-28). The rules of worship taught the Israelites the concepts of purity, obedience, and self-discipline and were analogies or symbols (prophetic acts) of things to come. For instance, pork, considered ceremonially unclean in the Old Testament, is symbolic of Gentiles, also considered unclean.­ Both are "made clean" by Christ in the New Testament. (Acts 10:9-28).­ 

At Christ's death, prophesies were fulfilled, and a new covenant was established (The New Testament).­ The physical acts of worship were replaced with spiritual acts of worship.­ Jesus declared all foods clean ­in Mark 7:19.­ The commandments of behavior, or moral laws, including homosexuality, beastiality, incest, etc., continued to be condemned in the New Testament (Rom.­ 1:24-27, I Cor. 6:9-10). As a  matter of fact, the Old Testament is where we learn what constitutes sin. It is our master, or teacher. The laws were followed because the people were required to follow them, like it or not. Jesus still wants us to follow the laws but because we want to please Him, not because we have to. It's much like the way things are with our parents. Growing up we do things they require because we have to. We stomp and stew and find ways to disobey those rules, but when we mature, we see the reasoning behind them and we want to follow those rules and we want our children to follow those rules too.

There is no longer a scapegoat upon which sins were placed back in Old Testament times. When Jesus became the sacrificial Lamb, the scapegoat was eliminated. The sins being carried by the scapegoat had been only temporarily forgiven. Jesus forgives sins permanently. 

As to the commandment of sacrificing on an altar, we no longer practice that commandment because Jesus became our sacrificial Lamb. He also became our High Priest. (Hebrews 3:1, 4:14-15, Heb. 5:1-10, Heb. 10:16-18))

He became our High Priest and is the only priest now required. Hebrews 7:12-22 says of the tribe of Levi "the former tribe" is set aside as priests because it was weak and useless. "12 For when the priesthood is changed, the law must be changed also. 13 He of whom these things are said belonged to a different tribe, and no one from that tribe has ever served at the altar. 14 For it is clear that our Lord descended from Judah, and in regard to that tribe Moses said nothing about priests. 15 And what we have said is even more clear if another priest like Melchizedek appears, 16 one who has become a priest not on the basis of a regulation as to his ancestry but on the basis of the power of an indestructible life. 17 For it is declared: “You are a priest forever, in the order of Melchizedek.” 18 The former regulation is set aside because it was weak and useless 19 (for the law made nothing perfect), and a better hope is introduced, by which we draw near to God. 20 And it was not without an oath! Others became priests without any oath, 21 but he became a priest with an oath when God said to him: "The Lord has sworn and will not change his mind: ‘You are a priest forever.' 22 Because of this oath, Jesus has become the guarantor of a better covenant." Priests in the Old Testament were all descended from Levi, but Jesus was descended from Judah, so the law was changed at that point no longer requiring a priest to be descended from Levi and, in fact, no other priests but Jesus are required.

The baptisms performed by John the Baptist were for the repentance of sin only. Period. The end. But when Jesus had ascended into heaven, he left behind the Holy Spirit which each of us are given as his gift when we are baptized for the remission of sins. (Acts 2:38)

--Becky Wall

THE SAGA OF MY MAID OF HONOR'S DRESS

 

THE SAGA OF MY MAID OF HONOR'S DRESS

This incident occurred in 1966 while I was working at Radio Station WMIX in Mt. Vernon, IL. The program was administered through the high school's Office Occupations program my Senior year. We went to school half a day then worked half a day. I was a secretary.

While at work, on my free time, I went to a bridal shop and picked out a mint green dress for my Maid of Honor to wear. I paid some on it each week until I finally got it paid off. The store clerk put the dress in a big, white box and I took it to work and put it in a big closet.

 
When I went to get the dress after work, the box was gone. I went to each of the guys and told them to give it up.I thought one of them was playing a prank on me. None of them knew anything about it. Then one of them mentioned that he saw it propped against the wall and thought it was empty so he put it against the trash can. Someone else added that the trash man had already been there, so I realized that's surely where it went. I was sick.

My fiance and I hopelessly went to the junk yard. It was huge with little fires burning here and there. We didn't spot a big white box so we left. We went to Mr. Kendricks's home. He was the owner of the trash truck. His home wasn't where it is now. It was on the poorer side of town whereas now he has a fine home. When his wife came to the door, we told her our predicament. She said her husband took his truckload to be compacted. 

Our situation was going from bad to worse. We were getting ready to leave and here came Mr. Kendricks in his truck. He said he had taken the contents to be compacted but the business was closed. We told him the situation, then he reached in the back of the truck and pulled out a big, white box. The dress inside was unscathed. I was inwardly praising God. That would have been a little thing to God but it was a big, big thing to me, so He made sure the dress was spared. God is there for all things that make us anxious. We are to pray to Him about everything including every little thing.

Philippians 4:6 - Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

--Becky Wall

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MOOD MUSIC

 

MOOD MUSIC

         What is your favorite kind of music?  Rock and roll, classical, jazz, country, head-banging music? Have you ever noticed that your music either reflects your mood or changes your mood? If you are excited, you want fast, happy, exciting music. If you need peace and quiet, you prefer softer music. If your heart is breaking, you may want to listen to country music (like Achy Breaky Heart).

         Do you include Christian music as one of your choices? I did not grow up listening to Christian music on the radio. I was willing to sing it at church or with the family around the piano, but I just couldn't seem to get into it when I heard it on the radio. I'm a product of the '60's, so I preferred rock and roll. Rock and roll is fast paced and worldly, which reflected my former life.  It's not that I was a bad person. I was a regular church goer, but I didn't give God much thought outside of the church. I was uninterested in developing a relationship with my heavenly Father. When I did turn my life over to God and began to listen to a Christian radio station, I found the music was foreign to me. I was still drawn to rock and roll. But the more I listened to Christian music, the more I came to appreciate it. 

I began to concentrate on the words. They really spoke to me. Then I noticed the music was catchy, too. I had "grown" to like it. Following is what the Bible has to say about music:

Judges 5:3 - "Hear this, you kings! Listen, you rulers! I will sing to the LORD, I will sing; I will make music to the LORD, the God of Israel."

I Chr. 15:16 - "David told the leaders of the Levites to appoint their brothers as singers to sing joyful songs, accompanied by musical instruments: lyres, harps and cymbals."

I Chr. 16:9 - "Sing to him, sing praise to him; tell of all his wonderful acts."

I Chr. 16:23 - "Sing to the LORD, all the earth; proclaim his salvation day after day."

I Chr. 16:32-33 - "Let the sea resound, and all that is in it; let the fields be jubilant, and everything in them!  Then the trees of the forest will sing, they will sing for joy before the LORD, for he comes to judge the earth."

II Chr. 20:20-21 - "After consulting the people, Jehoshaphat appointed men to sing to the LORD and to praise him for the splendor of his holiness as they went out at the head of the army, saying: "Give thanks to the LORD, for his love endures forever."  As they began to sing and praise, the LORD set ambushes against the men of Ammon and Moab and Mount Seir who were invading Judah, and they were defeated."

Ezek. 33:32 - Indeed, to them you are nothing more than one who sings love songs with a beautiful voice and plays an instrument well, for they hear your words but do not put them into practice.

Neh. 12:27-28a - "At the dedication of the wall of Jerusalem, the Levites were sought out from where they lived and were brought to Jerusalem to celebrate joyfully the dedication with songs of thanksgiving and with the music of cymbals, harps and lyres.  The singers also were brought together from the region around Jerusalem..."

Ps. 5:11 - "But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you."

Ps. 9:2 - "I will be glad and rejoice in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High."

Ps. 13:6 - "I will sing to the LORD, for he has been good to me."

Ps. 21:13 - "Be exalted, O LORD, in your strength; we will sing and praise your might."

Ps. 30:4 - "Sing to the LORD, you saints of his; praise his holy name."

Ps. 32:11-33:3 - "Rejoice in the LORD and be glad, you righteous; sing, all you who are upright in heart!

Ps. 33:1-3  Sing joyfully to the LORD, you righteous; it is fitting for the upright to praise him.  Praise the LORD with the harp; make music to him on the ten-stringed lyre.  Sing to him a new song; play skillfully, and shout for joy.

Ps. 33:2-3 - "Praise the LORD with the harp; make music to him on the ten-stringed lyre.  Sing to him a new song; play skillfully, and shout for joy."

Ps. 47:6-7 - "Sing praises to God, sing praises; sing praises to our King, sing praises.  For God is the King of all the earth; sing to him a psalm of praise.

Ps. 51:14 - "Save me from bloodguilt, O God, the God who saves me, and my tongue will sing of your righteousness."

Ps. 57:7-9 - "My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast; I will sing and make music.  Awake, my soul! Awake, harp and lyre! I will awaken the dawn.  I will praise you, O Lord, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples.

Ps. 59:16=17 - "But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble.  O my Strength, I sing praise to you; you, O God, are my fortress, my loving God."

Ps. 63:7 - "Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings."

Ps. 65:13-66:1 - The meadows are covered with flocks and the valleys are mantled with grain; they shout for joy and sing.  For the director of music. A song. A psalm. Shout with joy to God, all the earth!  Sing the glory of his name; make his praise glorious!  Say to God, "How awesome are your deeds! So great is your power that your enemies cringe before you.  All the earth bows down to you; they sing praise to you, they sing praise to your name."

Ps. 67:1 - "For the director of music. With stringed instruments. A psalm. A song. May God be gracious to us and bless us and make his face shine upon us..."

Ps. 67:4 - "May the nations be glad and sing for joy, for you rule the peoples justly and guide the nations of the earth."

Ps. 68:4 - "Sing to God, sing praise to his name, extol him who rides on the clouds -- his name is the LORD-- and rejoice before him."

Ps. 71:22-23 - "I will praise you with the harp for your faithfulness, O my God; I will sing praise to you with the lyre, O Holy One of Israel.  My lips will shout for joy when I sing praise to you-- I, whom you have redeemed.

Ps. 81:2 - "Begin the music, strike the tambourine, play the melodious harp and lyre."

Ps. 92:1-4 - "A psalm. A song. For the Sabbath day. It is good to praise the LORD and make music to your name, O Most High, to proclaim your love in the morning and your faithfulness at night, to the music of the ten-stringed lyre and the melody of the harp."  For you make me glad by your deeds, O LORD; I sing for joy at the works of your hands.

Ps. 95:1-2 - "Come, let us sing for joy to the LORD; let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation.Let us come before him with thanksgiving and extol him with music and song."

Ps. 96:1-2 - "Sing to the LORD a new song; sing to the LORD, all the earth.  Sing to the LORD, praise his name; proclaim his salvation day after day.

Ps. 96:12-13 - "let the fields be jubilant, and everything in them. Then all the trees of the forest will sing for joy; they will sing before the LORD, for he comes, he comes to judge the earth. He will judge the world in righteousness and the peoples in his truth.

Ps. 98:1 - "A psalm. Sing to the LORD a new song, for he has done marvelous things; his right hand and his holy arm have worked salvation for him.

Ps. 98:4-9 - "Shout for joy to the LORD, all the earth, burst into jubilant song with music; make music to the LORD with the harp, with the harp and the sound of singing, with trumpets and the blast of the ram's horn-- shout for joy before the LORD, the King.  Let the sea resound, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it.  Let the rivers clap their hands, let the mountains sing together for joy; let them sing before the LORD, for he comes to judge the earth.

Ps. 98:8-9 - "Let the rivers clap their hands, let the mountains sing together for joy; let them sing before the LORD, for he comes to judge the earth. He will judge the world in righteousness and the peoples with equity.

Ps. 101:1 - "Of David. A psalm. I will sing of your love and justice; to you, O LORD, I will sing praise.

Ps. 104:33 - "I will sing to the LORD all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live."

Ps. 105:2 - "Sing to him, sing praise to him; tell of all his wonderful acts."

Ps. 108:1-3 - "A song. A psalm of David. My heart is steadfast, O God; I will sing and make music with all my soul.  Awake, harp and lyre! I will awaken the dawn.  I will praise you, O LORD, among the nations; I will sing of you among the peoples."

Ps. 119:172 - "May my tongue sing of your word, for all your commands are righteous."

Ps. 135:3 - "Praise the LORD, for the LORD is good; sing praise to his name, for that is pleasant.

Ps. 138:4-5 - "May all the kings of the earth praise you, O LORD, when they hear the words of your mouth.  May they sing of the ways of the LORD, for the glory of the LORD is great.

Ps. 144:9 - "I will sing a new song to you, O God; on the ten-stringed lyre I will make music to you..."

Ps. 145:7 - "They will celebrate your abundant goodness and joyfully sing of your righteousness."

Ps. 146:2 - "I will praise the LORD all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live."

Ps. 147:1 - "Praise the LORD. How good it is to sing praises to our God, how pleasant and fitting to praise him!"

Sing to the Lord with grateful praise; make music to our God on the harp. Psalm 147:7

Isaiah 38:20 - The Lord will save me, and we will sing with stringed instruments all the days of our lives in the temple of the Lord.

Ps. 149:1 - "Praise the LORD. Sing to the LORD a new song, his praise in the assembly of the saints."

Ps. 149:3 - "Let them praise his name with dancing and make music to him with tambourine and harp."

Ps. 149:5 - "Let the saints rejoice in this honor and sing for joy on their beds."

Ps. 150:1-6 - "Praise the LORD. Praise God in his sanctuary; praise him in his mighty heavens.  Praise him for his acts of power; praise him for his surpassing greatness.  Praise him with the sounding of the trumpet, praise him with the harp and lyre, praise him with tambourine and dancing, praise him with the strings and flute, praise him with the clash of cymbals, praise him with resounding cymbals.  Let everything that has breath praise the LORD. Praise the LORD."

Prov. 29:6 - "An evil man is snared by his own sin, but a righteous one can sing and be glad."

Isa. 12:5-6 - "Sing to the LORD, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world.  Shout aloud and sing for joy, people of Zion, for great is the Holy One of Israel among you."

Isa. 38:18-20 - "For the grave cannot praise you, death cannot sing your praise; those who go down to the pit cannot hope for your faithfulness.  The living, the living--they praise you, as I am doing today; fathers tell their children about your faithfulness.  The LORD will save me, and we will sing with stringed instruments all the days of our lives in the temple of the LORD.

Isa. 42:10 - "Sing to the LORD a new song, his praise from the ends of the earth, you who go down to the sea, and all that is in it, you islands, and all who live in them."

Isa 44:23 - "Sing for joy, O heavens, for the LORD has done this; shout aloud, O earth beneath. Burst into song, you mountains, you forests and all your trees, for the LORD has redeemed Jacob, he displays his glory in Israel."

Jer. 20:13 - "Sing to the LORD! Give praise to the LORD! He rescues the life of the needy from the hands of the wicked."

Lam. 5:14-15 - "The elders are gone from the city gate; the young men have stopped their music.  Joy is gone from our hearts; our dancing has turned to mourning.

Ezel 26:13 - "13  I will put an end to your noisy songs, and the music of your harps will be heard no more.

Amos 5:23 - "Away with the noise of your songs! I will not listen to the music of your harps."

Lk 15:25 - ""Meanwhile, the older son was in the field. When he came near the house, he heard music and dancing."

Rom. 15:9-11 - "so that the Gentiles may glorify God for his mercy, as it is written: "Therefore I will praise you among the Gentiles; I will sing hymns to your name."  Again, it says, "Rejoice, O Gentiles, with his people."  And again, "Praise the Lord, all you Gentiles, and sing praises to him, all you peoples."

Eph. 5:19 - "Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord..."

Col. 3:16 - "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.

James 5:13 - "Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. Is anyone happy? Let him sing songs of praise."

Becky Wall

GODSPEAK

   

GODSPEAK

Ps. 19:14 - "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer."

Ps. 34:13 - "keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies."

Ps. 37:30 - The mouth of the righteous man utters wisdom, and his tongue speaks what is just."

Ps. 39:1b-2 - "I said, 'I will watch my ways and keep my tongue from sin; I will put a muzzle on my mouth as long as the wicked are in my presence.'"

Ps. 139:20b -  your adversaries misuse your name.

Ps. 141:3 - "Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips."

Keep your mouth free of perversity;
    keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
    fix your gaze directly before you. Proverbs 4:24

Prov. 6:16-19 - "There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him:  haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers."

Prov. 7:4 - "Say to wisdom, 'You are my sister,' and call understanding your kinsman..."

Prov. 8:12-13 - "I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence; I possess knowledge and discretion.  To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech."

Prov. 10:19 - "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise."

Prov. 10:20 - "The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value."

Prov. 10:21 - "The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment."

Prov. 10:31 - "The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, but a perverse tongue will be cut out."

Prov. 10:32 - "The lips of the righteous know what is fitting, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse."

Prov. 11:12 - "A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue.

Prov. 11:13 - "A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret."

Prov. 12:6 - "The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them.

Prov. 12:18 - "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. 

Prov. 12:19 - "Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment."

Prov. 12:22 - "The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful."

Prov. 12:25 - "An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up."

Prov. 13:3 - "He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin."

Prov. 15:2 - "The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly."

Prov. 15:4 - "The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit."

Prov. 15:23 - "A man finds joy in giving an apt reply-- and how good is a timely word!"

Prov. 16:21 - "The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction."

Prov. 16:24  Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones."

Prov. 17:27 - "A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered."

Prov. 17:28 - "Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue."

Prov. 19:1 - "Better a poor man whose walk is blameless than a fool whose lips are perverse."

Prov. 20:15 - "Gold there is, and rubies in abundance, but lips that speak knowledge are a rare jewel."

Prov. 21:23 - "He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity."

Prov. 23:9 - "Do not speak to a fool, for he will scorn the wisdom of your words.

Prov. 25:15 - "Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone."

Prov. 26:20 - "Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down."

Eccl. 5:2-3 - "Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.

Eccl. 5:6-7 - "Do not let your mouth lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, "My vow was a mistake." Why should God be angry at what you say and destroy the work of your hands?  "Much dreaming and many words are meaningless. Therefore stand in awe of God.

Eccl. 6:11 - "The more the words, the less the meaning, and how does that profit anyone?"

Ecc. 9:17 - "The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools."

Eccl. 10:12 - "Words from a wise man's mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips. 

Jer. 15:19a - "Therefore this is what the LORD says: 'If you repent, I will restore you that you may serve me; if you utter worthy, not worthless, words, you will be my spokesman.'"

Mt 6:7 - "And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words."

I Cor. 13:4 - "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud."

I Cor. 14:9 - "So it is with you. Unless you speak intelligible words with your tongue, how will anyone know what you are saying? You will just be speaking into the air."

I Cor 14:19 - "But in the church I would rather speak five intelligible words to instruct others than ten thousand words in a tongue."

Eph. 4:15 - "Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ."

Eph. 4:25 - "Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body."

Eph. 4:29 - "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

Eph. 4:31 - "Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice."

Eph. 5:4 - "Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving."

Eph. 5:6-7 - "Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God's wrath comes on those who are disobedient.  Therefore do not be partners with them."

Eph. 6:4 - "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."

Phil. 2:14 - "Do everything without complaining or arguing..."

Col. 3:8 - "But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips."

Col. 4:6 - "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone."

I Thess. 4:11-12 - "Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.

I Tim. 4:12 - "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity."

II Tim. 2:14 - "Keep reminding them of these things. Warn them before God against quarreling about words; it is of no value, and only ruins those who listen."

II Tim. 2:24-26 - "And the Lord's servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will."

Titus 2:7-8 - "In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us."

James 1:26 - "If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless."

James 3:2-10 - "We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check. When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.  The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man,  but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be."

James 4:1 - "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?"

James 4:11a - "Brothers, do not slander one another.

I Pet. 2:1 - "Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind."

I Pet. 3:1 - "Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives..."

I Pet. 3:10 - "For, "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech."

I Pet. 4:11 - "If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever."

I Jn 3:18 - "Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth."

Sayings:

To speak kindly does not hurt the tongue.

Try to fix the mistake--never the blame.

A good listener is a silent flatterer.

Whenever you speak, your mind is on parade.

Talk is cheap, but you can't buy it back.

Gossip runs down more people than automobiles.

Those who think it permissible to tell white lies soon become color blind.

We have two ears and one mouth that we may listen the more and talk the less. 

I have one tongue, two ears, two eyes;
God created me that way.
So it must be, if I am wise,
I'll hear and see more than I'll say.

Becky Wall

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UNDYING LOVE

UNDYING LOVE

He cried to God, He breathed His last,

Some thought He had met defeat.

It seemed to them Christ’s love had died,

When His heart failed to beat.

But that was part of God’s own plan –

That His Son be crucified.

Jesus gave His life for me,

But His love for me never died.

Becky Wall

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MY BIBLE COLLEGE JOURNAL WITH ASSIGNED SCRIPTURES

MY BIBLE COLLEGE JOURNAL WITH ASSIGNED SCRIPTURES

My Understanding of Those Scriptures

New Testament Survey Journal
Dr. Baker
by Becky Wall

Galatians 1 - 9/1/98
I was educated to things I had never been taught before because I was compelled to focus on the evidence Paul was trying to present instead of on the point Paul was trying to make. I had passed over this evidence while reading on my own. I concluded that Paul should be accepted as an Apostle, not merely because he says he is one, but because he has presented overwhelming evidence to prove his case.

The verse which meant the most to me was verse 18: “But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach a gospel other than the one we preached to you, let him be eternally condemned.” That’s pretty harsh. I must be careful to research and fully understand what I teach.

Galatians 2 - 9/1/98
I couldn’t help but put the key figures in a modern-day setting. I can think of several occasions where others tried to force their ideas on me, not because I am a Gentile, but because I was of a lower class, a female, have a limited education, a different political party, a different religion, etc. But in Jesus’ eyes, I am equal. In His eyes, I am somebody. I need to obey Him before any other, and if anyone tries to teach me anything contrary to what the scriptures teach, then I will continue to ignore that person’s teachings.

My favorite verse was 2:20: “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me." The bad and ugly part of me is dead, buried, and forgotten, but the good that comes from the Holy Spirit gives me a pure heart and a new life that will never end.

Galatians 3 - 9/1/98
In reading this chapter I gained a better perspective in knowing that the law is no longer our master, but that doesn’t make it null and void. It still serves the same purpose: it convicts us of sin. But the beauty of it all is that Christ has redeemed us. We don’t have to be born into just the right family, or be a particular gender, or be in a certain income level. I am free to be me, and I am loved just the way I am.

My favorite verses were 23-26, which include a promise against prejudice and a promise of the rights of an heir.

Galatians 4 - 9/2/98
I would certainly rather be an heir with the rights of an heir than to be a slave. As long as I remain in Christ, I will have the rights of an heir, but if I should fall into sin, I will become a slave to sin. Those are my choices. So why is it so hard to choose sometimes? Like the Galatians, I would lose my joy along with my freedom if I turn away from Christ’s teachings.

It is a paradox that when we are disciplined, we are the most free, but when we become “carefree,” we become a slave to our sins. I know that this principle is true because I have seen it too many times to doubt it. To be free in Christ is to be free indeed!

Galatians 5 - 9/2/98
I have never taken even a sip of an alcoholic beverage and I have never participated in an orgy, but I have to be really careful about honestly answering that I have never committed any of the other sins listed, at least in some form or the other. I thought, at first, that I had never participated in witchcraft, but I remember playing with a Ouija board at least once when I was young.

Galatians 6 - 9/2/98
It is hard to bear in mind at all times that I reap what I sow. Sometimes I quickly reap the consequences of my actions, but sometimes the consequences appear over a long period of time. It is so important for me to look at “the big picture,” not just the inviting temptations for pleasure that face me in the present. That few minutes of pleasure could not only bring dire consequences that are long-lasting, but could injure my reputation, my witness, my usefulness and potential as one of Christ’s disciples, and my self-respect. It would also rob me of my peace and ongoing happiness.

I Thessalonians 1 - 9/3/98
These words would be music to my ears if someone were to say them to me. I hope that at the end of my life someone will be prompted to say them.

I Thessalonians 2 - 9/3/98
Paul never wanted to be a burden to anyone so that his witness would be more well received, and he was gentle with the Thessalonians in his presentation of spiritual truths. His approach is one to exemplify when I present spiritual truths, and I never know when that opportunity will arise. The key, then, is to never be a burden to anyone, and always be gentle in my approach.

I Thessalonians 3 - 9/3/98
Paul continues to encourage the Thessalonians. I think encouragement is almost a lost virtue in our churches. It is one of my pet peeves. I do encourage, but I always feel I could encourage more if I would just take the time and overcome my own weaknesses that prevent me from doing so, like shyness and fear of saying the wrong thing. I've often said I was born with a silver foot in my mouth. I am really trusting God to help me overcome those fears so that I can increase my usefulness in the church and as an overall witness.

I Thessalonians 4 - 9/3/98
Paul gets a little more serious in his writings to the Thessalonians in that he reminds and warns them not to fall into sin. I, too, should stay in God’s Word to get those constant reminders and warnings so that I do not fall into sin.

I Thessalonians 5 - 9/7/98
Paul continues to admonish the Thessalonians. In the beginning of the chapter he warns them not to worry about when Christ will come again, but warns them to just be ready. Am I ready? Sometimes I think “Yes;” other times I think “No.” I will continue to prepare for His coming in a spiritual way, but I won’t give up my Dorm Mom job and my college studies in order to sit outside in a lawn chair waiting for Christ’s arrival, similar to what some of the Thessalonians were evidently doing. Paul put much emphasis on encouraging and admonishing one another, love, peace, and continuing to work. These charges apply to me, as well.

II Thessalonians 1 - 9/8/98
Paul encourages the Thessalonians not to lose heart over their sufferings, for the Lord would repay the trouble the troublers had brought to His people.

II Thessalonians 2 - 9/3/98
Paul further warns the Thessalonians against false prophets saying the end has come or who come with false teachings. That is why I should know the scriptures. There are so many out there who think they know the truth, but never bother to study the scriptures in search of the real truth. I know they can be very convincing and appear very confident because I have been approached by them before. It is my hope that I can prevent others from falling into this trap by confidently teaching them with scriptures. I had this opportunity one time when one of my friends was approached by Jehovah’s Witnesses and was soaking up everything they said. I knew my scripture well enough to combat the false teachings they were presenting, and even the Jehovah’s Witness trainee was shaking her head “Yes” at what I was saying, as if it made sense to her, too. It was a fulfilling experience. The friend began to go to the Church of Christ and is still a regular goer today. Several of her family members also go. This was about 25 years ago.

II Thessalonians 3 - 9/8/98
Paul again warns the people to work--to not be idle busybodies. This reminds me of something my mother used to say: “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” In this case, it seems that Paul is trying to say, “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop.” I would do well to heed the warnings of my mother and Paul, for I have seen and experienced that their points are well taken.

I Corinthians 1 - 9/13/98
These scriptures reminded me of God’s displeasure with the grumbling of the Israelites while on their trek from Egypt to the Holy Land. Paul, too, calls for the Corinthians to give up their quarrels. I do a lot of grumbling myself. Grumbling and quarreling cause division, and God hates division. He hates it in the home, and He hates it in the church. Therefore, I should avoid grumbling. Paul deviates from the subject by encouraging the people to take heart in that God uses the “weak” and “foolish” to accomplish His purposes. I feel weak and foolish, but it is comforting to know that these are the type of people through whom God worked. This is one time that I am okay with being weak and foolish.

I Corinthians 2 - 9/13/98
These scriptures confirm what I had concluded on my own. Spiritually speaking, I am subject to God’s judgment--not man’s. The Holy Spirit has led me on a path unknown to others, and it is the Holy Spirit I should listen to--not the judgment of man. The spiritual truths the Holy Spirit teaches me are not always consistent with what I am told by other Christians and non-Christians. It is God to whom I must ultimately answer, so it is He, through the Holy Spirit, that I should listen. He has promised to reveal to me the truths I need to know, as long as I am willing to listen.

I Corinthians 3 - 9/13/98
It was sobering to me to discover that my jealousy and quarreling puts me in the same category with the worldly ones. I became more aware of the emphasis God puts on my body being his temple. And if I do anything to destroy someone else’s temple, God will destroy me. I would never murder, but would I display, or am I already displaying, a behavior that another might copy to an excessive and destructive degree? I hope not, but it is something I need to constantly consider.

I Corinthians 4 - 9/13/98
The church must take advantage of every opportunity, for it is the foolishness of the church’s teaching that makes Christ’s message strong. I am a member of that church. I still have a measure of respectability because I have not been persecuted by Satan’s forces to the point that Paul was, in that people looked down upon him. I have been verbally abused because of my Christianity, but if I were persecuted to the point that I was in rags, physically tortured, and downtrodden, as Paul was, I would pray that it was because God considered me a worthy advocate.

I Corinthians 5 - 9/14/98
My charge in these scriptures is not to even associate with the unrepentant sinner. We are told in other passages to love the sinner, to witness to them, to help them in whatever way we can, but when they continue their behavior, we are to avoid them. I am to avoid them. I could be brought down by their behavior if I remain in their company for very long. I should never date or marry an unrepentant sinner; that would be a terrible failure to God on my part.

I Corinthians 6 - 9/14/98
I learned that my body provides housing for my soul and Spirit. It is God’s temple, and like the architectural structure, it is not to be defiled or desecrated. If I put this together with other scriptural teachings, my body, like the temple, is to be constantly cleansed. My body and soul should first be cleansed through baptism, then through the forgiveness that comes with prayer and confession. I should never do anything that would possibly or ultimately destroy my temple. Additionally, I would never get a tattoo because it is like putting graffiti on a temple. It is the shell that God wishes for me to use in order to complete His work in me. When that day comes, my shell will no longer needed, but I will live on for eternity, according to His promise. 

I Corinthians 7 - 9/14/98
Because I am a divorcee, I battle with these scriptures sometimes. On the other hand, I am at peace with God over my situation. I know that Paul is speaking to Christians, and that some of them were wanting to divorce a mate, rebel against their slavery, be circumcised, etc. But Paul admonishes them to stay in their present situation. (He does tell the slaves to get their freedom if they can.) He is not addressing abusive marriages, adultery, fornication, an addicted spouse, etc. He does say that God has called us to live in peace. Divorce may be a sin, but so are anger, disharmony, bitterness, quarreling, abuse, etc. The Lord came to save us from our sins, because for some of us, there seems to be no escape from sin no matter how hard we try. For that I will be eternally grateful--literally.

MY OWNERSHIP OF THE RESTORATION PLEA

Picture added 2025 but the manuscript was written in 2000. This picture was taken in 2001.

Becky Wall

History of the American Restoration Movement
Dr. Pabarcus, Professor
May 10, 2000

My Ownership of the Restoration Plea

The Restoration Movement is built on two key concerns: Christian union and biblical authority. I totally agree with the two principles, but I would sacrifice the quest for unity if the other wings of the Brotherhood did not consider the Bible as their source of faith and practice, if Jesus were not considered the Son of God, and if His death, burial and resurrection were not part of their doctrine of belief. According to I Corinthians 15:12-17:

“But if it is preached that Christ has been raised from the dead, how can some of you say that there is no resurrection of the dead? If there is no resurrection of the dead, then not even Christ has been raised. And if Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith. More than that, we are then found to be false witnesses about God, for we have testified about God that he raised Christ from the dead. But he did not raise him if in fact the dead are not raised. For if the dead are not raised, then Christ has not been raised either. And if Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins."

I believe in baptism by immersion for the remission of sins. I think it is scriptural both in Word and by the example of the first Christians as recorded in the book of Acts, such as the eunuch and by Jesus Himself. But I personally do not want to disassociate myself from people with differing beliefs on baptism. If we all disassociated ourselves from them, how would they ever come to learn the truth. If we in the Christian churches are in error on any point, and if other churches disassociated themselves from us because of that disagreement, how would we ever come to know the truth? Throughout the history of the last couple of centuries, many great men fought for unity even while they held to beliefs that were in error, but over time they changed their beliefs, like Alexander and Thomas Campbell did about baptism. It was while seeking unity with others that they came to know the truth. “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Rom. 8:28).

I am protective of Bible-based beliefs. I do not think they should be watered down, overlooked, or compromised by men’s traditions. I would not want the Christian church to preach or accept another baptism other than immersion because I believe it would be to preach or encourage a false doctrine. But at every opportunity our relationship with those of other beliefs should be to be unified on those points on which we all agree.

I think it is biblical to be governed by elders, but not biblical to have a council make decisions regarding the different churches in its district or division. There again, I would not disassociate myself from them, but I would not be willing to unite with them in such a way as to accept their “code of conduct.”

I do not agree with the practice of supernatural exercises, but I see how God took the occurrences at Cane Ridge and used them for the good. I do not see those occurrences as biblical or as edifying the church or as orderly worship, but they did get people’s attention.

I believe in open communion, but I am not sure where I stand on open membership. Do we have the right to deny anyone membership in the church? Is our membership policy that we are drawing members into the church, or that we are welcoming members into Christ’s kingdom? Is it not up to them to grow and learn the full knowledge of what it is to become a Christian as they mature? And we are all at different levels of maturity. I know people in other denominations who believe closer to what I believe than some of the members of my own church, simply because of their maturity level.

I like the statement, “Where the Scriptures speak, we speak; where the Scriptures are silent, we are silent,” but much of what we believe in the Bible is inferred, and not directly “spoken.” For instance, the issue of immersion. It is argued and has been argued for a thousand years whether or not the original language of the Bible means immersion when it speaks of baptism. We must, then, follow example and logic. The eunuch did not use the small amount of water from his canteen or a jar to sprinkle or pour on him. John the Baptist baptized in a large body of water--not somewhere in a synagogue or other building where all he had to do was sprinkle or pour. The Bible does not tell us to meet on Sunday, either. We do that by the example of the apostles. The Bible does not speak to infant baptism--for or against. We assume that babies are not to be baptized because they cannot believe or repent.

I have no problem with instruments in the church. We are to use our talents for the Lord. It is when we misuse those gifts God gave us that there is a problem. Besides, instruments were used throughout the Old Testament in worship services and at celebrations. I don’t believe God changed his mind and decided using musical instruments in worship was a sin for New Testament believers. But if a non-instrumental person believes it is a sin and he violates his own beliefs, then for him it is sin. That, too, is scriptural.

I believe one of the greatest sins a church can commit is to split. It is akin to divorce. Both division and divorce are devastating to the parties involved and for many others who are caught up in the ripple effect. A church, meaning the people, should throw all their energies into making things work. The church is like a family. They should exhaust every avenue of reconciliation. God hates division. The one who is guilty of causing the split--even if it is to force the other wing to separate itself from the unacceptable actions or attitudes of their own wing--is not just causing a separation in the church family; that wing is separating itself from God.

My view of people from other denominations drastically changed when I joined the right-to-life movement in the mid-70’s. When we women united for the cause of defending the unborn, the women there were the cream of the crop from area churches. They were devout and knowledgeable. They were loving and caring. We could discuss religion without the discussion ever becoming heated. We were united on the one issue, and it brought us closer as Christians. I saw that they were serving the Lord to the best of their knowledge and belief, just as I was. The cause of abortion had united us, but the good that came of it was that we were able to share and compare beliefs in a loving setting. I longed for that to occur more often throughout the community of churches, but under better circumstances. On the other hand, if you multiply my experience with that of other people in other towns and cities, perhaps God is taking this evil and extracting more good than what I realize.


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GROWING IN GOD'S GRACE AS A DIVORCEE

GROWING IN GOD’S GRACE AS A DIVORCEE

Divorce is running rampant through society. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Unfortunately, this statistic is almost as high among Christians. Many come from split families. This article is directed toward women. I wrote it when I taught a class on Divorce at Woman's Day held at St. Louis Christian College 20+ years ago. I am a divorcee myself.

 
God hates divorce because he is seeking Godly children. Malachi 2:14-16 says “...the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirits they are His. And why one? Because He was seeking Godly offspring.” 

I hope to give new insight to the divorce issue and to help others understand the feelings and needs of the divorced so they will know how to minister to them. First, try to understand the feelings of the divorcee. She is emotionally traumatized by the divorce, though only if she is the innocent party. She is grieving the death of the marriage and, in a sense, the death of the spouse as the person she thought she knew. 

There is no dignity in divorce like there is with death. The support isn’t there. In fact, some friends are lost. The divorced woman may face the trauma of seeing the spouse with another person. She may be treated as if she is disposable and unworthy of consideration. She may have to watch their kids go off with the former spouse and the new partner. She may have a great investment in her spouse, as far as time, help, emotions, children, and experiences. She may have helped him through college or waited for him to serve his years in the service. Oftentimes a divorcee suffered with him through the lean years. 

After the divorce her income may drop considerably. She may have to start all over. If she leaves the house to him and moves to a different town to avoid the hurts and gossip, she has to leave her comfort zone, her friends, everything familiar to her, her helper, her partner, the church, etc. So for all these reasons she is angry, bitter and sad, often to the point of depression.

This anger is oftentimes directed at God. The divorcee may wonder why God let this happen. Naomi, in the book of Ruth, also felt that way when her husband and sons were killed. “Don’t call me Naomi" (meaning pleasant), she told them. "Call me Mara (meaning bitter), because the Almighty has made my life very bitter. I went away full, but the Lord has brought me back empty. Why call me Naomi? The Lord has afflicted me; the Almighty has brought misfortune upon me." (Ruth 1:20-21) Following scriptures show how she and Ruth were greatly blessed. God is big enough to handle our anger toward Him.

Sins that build up during the marriage while trying to avoid the sin of divorce:

1. Anger - See Psalms 37:8 - Refrain from anger and turn from wrath...
2. Bitterness - See Eph. 4:31-32 
3. Revenge - Romans 12:17-18a - “Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends. . .” I Thess. 5:15 - “Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.”
4. Hate, strife - Proverbs 10:12 - “Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. (In a marriage, both need to be loving--not just one. Just don’t return hate for hate.)

"Am I being punished for a past sin?" the divorcee may ask herself? “I am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more” says Isaiah 43:25. “He does not treat you as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities” Psalm 103:10. (See also Ps. 103:10, 12; Jer. 31:34; Isa. 43:25)

 
The divorcee may wonder if God even cares. But His Word says, “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you” I Pet. 5:7. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalms 34:18). DON’T GIVE UP ON GOD; He will give you real hope when there seems to be no hope. 

Don’t try to “fix” things yourself when you are the only partner trying; step back and let God work with him. At the same time God will be working with you. Many other sins mount while trying to avoid the sin of divorce, such as anger, bitterness, revenge, hate, and strife, as mentioned before. (Ps. 37:8, Eph. 4:31:32, Rom. 12:17-18a, I Thess. 5:15, Prov. 10:12, Prov. 29:22) Be willing to face reality. Your spouse may never change and you cannot change your spouse (Romans 8:7).

The divorcee may feel the following:

1. Rejected, like a failure, useless.
2. Disposable--you are not a keeper.
3. As if you weren’t woman enough to keep your man.
4. A complete failure wondering if you should try anything since you failed at marriage.
5. Wondering how anyone could love you if your own husband couldn’t.
6. Fear of going to hell. By human standards, divorce is set up as one of the major sins.
7. Your only hopes are false hopes.
8. I also felt like I was falling out of an airplane with no parachute and was grasping at air or anything in the air, which is only more air. Others have said they felt like they had walked in front of a train or got off of a train only to step in the path of another one.

Don’t give up hope in all areas--just give up false hopes. If it's just a thread of hope, hang onto it. See what happens.

What you should expect from others, but may not happen:

• Support (Rom. 15:7) and encouragement (Rom. 15:2, I Thess. 5:11, ).
• Absence of judgmentalism (Prov. 17:15, Matt 7:1-2).
• Absence of “dirty looks” and snide comments from others.
• Having to defend yourself.
• Having to deal with personal and private questions or conversations.

Look for God’s approval, not the approval of others. Rise above being alienated and ostracized.

If you are in an abusive environment, you are not to blame for escaping that environment. David was bound by God’s law to serve Saul, his king, but he eventually had to flee. 

I Sam. 19:1-10 & 24:1-20

1 "Saul told his son Jonathan and all the attendants to kill David. But Jonathan had taken a great liking to David 2 and warned him, “My father Saul is looking for a chance to kill you. Be on your guard tomorrow morning; go into hiding and stay there. 3 I will go out and stand with my father in the field where you are. I’ll speak to him about you and will tell you what I find out.” 4 Jonathan spoke well of David to Saul his father and said to him, “Let not the king do wrong to his servant David; he has not wronged you, and what he has done has benefited you greatly. 5 He took his life in his hands when he killed the Philistine. The Lord won a great victory for all Israel, and you saw it and were glad. Why then would you do wrong to an innocent man like David by killing him for no reason?” 6 Saul listened to Jonathan and took this oath: “As surely as the Lord lives, David will not be put to death.” 7 So Jonathan called David and told him the whole conversation. He brought him to Saul, and David was with Saul as before. 8 Once more war broke out, and David went out and fought the Philistines. He struck them with such force that they fled before him. 9 But an evil spirit from the Lord came on Saul as he was sitting in his house with his spear in his hand. While David was playing the lyre, 10 Saul tried to pin him to the wall with his spear, but David eluded him as Saul drove the spear into the wall. That night David made good his escape. 11 Saul sent men to David’s house to watch it and to kill him in the morning. But Michal, David’s wife, warned him, 'If you don’t run for your life tonight, tomorrow you’ll be killed.' 12 So Michal let David down through a window, and he fled and escaped." Saul tries to kill David again in I Samuel 24:1-20. God did not hold it against David for breaking his vow to serve Saul.

“The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty in Malachi 2:16. I'm not sure what this verse means but what it means to me is that the violence is inward -- mental and emotional. The woman is deeply scarred.

Personal Growth As A Divorcee:

• Put the past behind you, but learn from it.
• Don’t let your problems consume you.
• Don’t beat yourself up with the “What ifs.”
• Do things that make you feel good about yourself.
• Make sure you accomplish one goal each day.
• Keep yourself looking presentable, but don’t overdo it. (I Peter 3:3)
• Splurge a little once in a while to lift your spirits. Be careful with this one.
• Try things you’ve never tried before. You will never know what God can do for you in your life if you never give Him a chance.
• Find positive ways to spend your time (Eph. 5:15-17).
• Keep busy. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.
• Spend time working on your talent and not in a bar. When I divorced I vented my emotions in writing.
• Find avenues that will enable individual growth.
• Share your feelings and your fears with a few close, trustworthy, wise friends who can relate on some level. 
• Ask them to be honest in sharing with you your strengths and weaknesses. Be receptive to what they say, whether complimentary or painful.
• Whether your relationship can be restored, or whether you can maintain other relationships, may depend on your recognizing that you may have picked up some bad attitudes or behaviors, such as bitterness, anger, impatience, biting tone of voice, “dirty” looks, etc. Work on yourself (Ps. 51:10).
• Seek peace (I Cor. 7:15, John 14:27, Rom 12:18 & 14:19, I Cor. 14:33).

Grow spiritually as a divorcee:

Recognize that though you may be a reject in your ex’s eyes, you are not a reject
in God’s eyes. He is always available to salvage the ones whose spouses were
unwilling to put in the work it takes to maintain a healthy marriage relationship (I Cor. 13, Cor. 7:15). Initiating the divorce does not mean you are the guilty party; you may not have had any other choice. A divorce decree isn’t a ticket to hell. You are still valuable to God and have much to offer Him.

 

Find a church that is accepting, nonjudgmental, caring, and doctrinally sound.

1. Read your Bible
2. Attend church faithfully--for the Lord.
3. Don’t expect others to fill your needs.
4. Make yourself available to help others in a similar situation ((Prov. 11:25b, II Cor. 1:3-4).
5. Replace worry with prayer. Pray often (James 5:13, I Thess. 5:17)--on your knees; you may get faster results. (I seem to.). (Prov. 15:13)
6. Do not let anything consume your thoughts or time. Focus on God (Prov. 4:25-27).
7. If you date, choose a Bible reading, prayerful, family-oriented man that treats you with the utmost respect and puts God first.

How to manage your pain.

1. Do not seek outlets for your pain that would not meet with God’s
2. approval. (Eph. 5:3, Gal 5:19-21, Ruth 3:10-11) If you feel you have failed God, just keep talking to Him and reading His Word. Don’t give up on Him and He won’t give up on you.
3. Treat yourself once in a while.

Dealing with the loneliness:

1. Don’t withdraw or isolate yourself from others.
2. Keep busy doing positive things.
3. Smile, even when you don’t feel like it (Prov. 15:13 & 17:22).
4. Strive to be content in whatever circumstances you find yourself (Phlp. 4:11-13).

All problems have one answer--Jesus. He may not make the problem go away, but He will give you the wisdom and strength to get through it. He will provide a way for you, but you must do your part, also. Things won’t be handed to us on a silver platter until we get to heaven, for there is a great spiritual battle waging over our lives and souls that keep our answers from coming as quickly as we would like. Never give up on yourself, and never give up on God.

Don't blame yourself for having to escape an abusive environment.

Physical abuse - Malachi 2:16 - “"The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty.

Do things that make you feel good about yourself.

Fix yourself up each day, but don’t overdo it. I Peter 3:3-4 - “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.”

Find positive ways to spend your time.

Eph. 5:15-17 - “Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is.”

Find avenues that will enable spiritual growth.

Work on yourself; be willing to change, to purify your heart. (Get rid of anger, malice, bitterness, etc.) Ps. 51:10 - “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”

Seek peace. 

• I Cor. 7:15 - “But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”

• John 14:27 - “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

• I Cor. 14:33 - “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace.”

• Romans 12:18 - “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

Face reality:

Your spouse may never change; you cannot change your spouse. 

Romans 8:7 - “. . .the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so.”

Read your Bible daily:

II Tim. 3:16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Use your experiences for the good. Comfort others in similar situations:

• Prov. 11:25b - “. . .he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.” 
• II Cor. 1:3-4 - “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.”

Don’t worry; pray:

• James 5:13 - “Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray. . .” 
• I Thess. 5:17 “pray continually.”

Do not let anyone or anything consume your thoughts or time; focus on God:

Prov. 4:25-27 - “Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.”

Choose a dedicated Christian if you date - II Cor. 6:14-15 - “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?. . .What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”

How to manage your pain:

Do not seek outlets that would not meet with God’s approval. Maintain honor and integrity. 

Eph. 5:3 - “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.”

Avoid all sin; be “fruitful.” 

Gal 5:19-24 - “The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dis­sensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires.

 
Show good character, then wait for blessings:

Ruth 3:10-11 - “The LORD bless you, my daughter," he replied. "This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. And now, my daughter, don't be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All my fel­low townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character.”

Dealing with loneliness:

Smile, even if you don’t feel like it. 

• Prov. 15:13 - “A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.” 
• Prov. 17:22 - “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Stay busy. Make new friends.

Be content:

Phil. 4:11-13 - “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”

Conclusion:

Commit yourself to the Lord; be righteous and patient; don’t worry or get angry. 

Psalms 37:4-8 - “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret--it leads only to evil."

Trust God to make the best of things.  

Romans 8:28 - “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

PERSONAL POEMS:

I wrote these poems the day of my divorce:

D-Day

Today is my divorce;

The judge hears my decree.

The stroke of his pen will amputate,

A long-time part of me.

Divorce became my last resort,

Broken covenants I must bear.

My heart and dreams are shattered, too;

I’ve awakened to a nightmare.

A wall had formed between us,

I can’t remember when.

I feel like Humpty Dumpty;

Who will put me together again?

I’ll meet with my attorney;

He’ll tell me what to say.

Our divorce is on the docket;

It is now D-Day.

Before we start, I’ll be sworn in;

The words I’ll say are few.

The marriage will end just as it started,

With the same two words, “I do.”

I think that I’ll wear black today,

A symbol of the grief in my heart.

I mourn the death of our marriage;

For this death will do us part.

Becky Wall

Beaten

I thought we were synonymous,

Though we were different, too.

Like salt and pepper go together,

So I went with you.

But now we’re living different lives;

Yes, now I live alone.

Life feels so unnatural,

Like in the Twilight Zone.

Our Christian lights shine dimmer now;

Respect for us has waned.

I often stop and ask myself,

Just what more have we gained?

I would not have it end this way.

But what else could I do?

If my pain was evident,

I would be black and blue.

Becky L. Wall

beckyowall.blogspot.com